“As long as the success isn't yours, your peers will believe it”
Isn't that a crazy sentence to read? Crazy concept to even think about, right? But, truly, is it tho? In today's day & age of everyone becoming a (Social Media) “Star” and having access to attention, everyone is having “success”. OR is it that everyone is being “looked at” in a certain way for attention? Let me clarify…
Women use to take their time and “experiment” on which make up worked best for them or which close were less/more flattering to emphasize or mask certain parts or figures. Men would wear certain shirts that exposed their muscular chest and/or arms or one that would shield the beer belly. NOW, we don't have to think about that because there's a filter for that. Which, I personally am NOT against using from time to time, but it seems this is a method used by ppl on a daily to display “who they are” to world & keeps their real selves hidden in the shadows for nobody to see. Is this shame? Is this embarrassment? Is this toying w/ having split personalities to be in private/public? Good question(s), right?
Now, take someone who learned how to use minimal make up or someone who spent hours at the gym & had the discipline on their diet for MONTHS - or take someone who was feverishly grinding on their craft to perfect it or even just to learn how to get consistent w/ the basics of it. Then, "out of nowhere", BOOM - a little success for them beings to take place. As excited as we get when we see some movement happening after trying to gain traction, we want to share this w/ the world - or at least ppl we know.
I noticed and observed that when we do exactly that, the opposite effect usually takes place. Instead of them asking 21 questions on how they can do it so they can stand on their podium & hold a “Goal Achieved” trophy, they instead tell you all the reasons why they can't do what you did or how “lucky you were” to be able to do it. And all of a sudden, their ears start to turn off & their irritation begins to turn on when you go even deeper into your explanation of how "they can do it, if…" Now, here is when the plot fucking thickens: Simply switch the character in your success story to a complete stranger, influencer or to a celebrity they follow/admire. Now, watch how their interest peaks and wheels start to turn on “how can I do that?”
As frustrating as this may seem or as frustrated you may have been when this happened to you, there is a logical reason for it: they don't know you as the person you're becoming - they only know you as the person you always been. That's it. “That's the tweet”. They didn't see the growth, they only seen your struggles. They didn't see your discipline, goal setting & achieving things on your to do list, they only saw “you couldn't afford to buy” something that you said you wanted (at that time). They only see what their focus tends to be on, and simply put, it's NOT on achieving goals. Primarily, many ppl have “given up” on achieving theirs so they really don't understand the process of someone they know doing it - but, when it is about a stranger, they automatically assume that success just came over night or because of….well, u create your own reasoning
So, how do we fix this? Great question. That will take trial and error to “fix”, but, I do have a substitute solution for you: simply tell your success story as if you're talking about someone else you know. Or better yet, get others in your network to “edify” you to ppl. Meaning, if you can, get testimonies from those in your network, especially those who truly appreciate your craft! When you have that, share those! Let “others” speak on your behave of your success & make mention of the hard work they seen you achieve & the grind you put in to get to this point. Then, eventually, those peers who only seen you as the person “you were” will have not choice but to FINALLY accept that “you've changed” into the person you were destined to be
D. Cal
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